Huh?
Am confused. And have been for a while.
Relationships always confuse me. I try REALLY hard to do the right thing, not jump to conclusions, I even read up pop psychology and pseudo philosophy to make sure I’m getting it right. I think I take this suppression of natural tendencies to an extreme and this fucks things up even worse. It’s easy to get into the habit of continually making excuses for the other person’s behaviour, forgetting that it’s okay to have certain expectations.
SO, help me out here:
1. If he says he will call in the evening and doesn’t which of the following should you assume:
a) That he doesn’t really want to call you, that talking to you is not something he looks forward to, that he only calls because he feels obliged to.
b) That he’s probably busy and it slipped his mind, that it’s not a big deal and the right thing would be for you to call him instead of waiting for the call.
2. Is it reasonable to expect a phone call or an sms a day?
3. Is it reasonable to expect replies to sms’s, even when they are not direct questions? And what does it mean when you don’t get replies?
4. When you have just met after being apart for nearly a month is it strange to require conversation before being physical?
5. Is it okay to push him away in such a situation?
6. And if you do push him away is it reasonable for him to get upset?
7. Is it so wrong
What the hell. I know all the fucking answers.
Never good enough for anyone.
posted by cactusjump @ 1:37 PM
7 Comments
7 Comments:
Why does beating oneself up over something like this feel... ummm... better?
I've been doing it for some time now and its addictive, no?
Lo... all I did was add more questions! Where is that wonderland... I wonde
Hoi, you got me going here.
1. B
2. Yes, but... refer to 1b
3. same ole! yes, you got that right! 1b
4. A conversation would be nice. But boys will be boys. Was the physicality a need to still/stall relevant/irrelevant conversation?
5. Yes, that's why you have arms!
6. Yes and No. Go figure.
7. It never is wrong. Never.
Since this is a game that I like, one question for you:
8. What if the phone died and you never got to know because he can't remember your number?
*I* know *all* the answers! Glad my immense knowledge of psychology didn't come into play here. <:-D
Oh yeah this one is me....jumping to conclusions :)
and the psychology analysis bit is just 'f**king with one's mind' (hope you arent a therapist...that wont go down well with you.lol)
these would be my presumptions and I am quite liberal in that
1) definitely a (no wonder my record of broken relationships is so
impressive)
2. not reasonable....insistence would be a better word
3 same as 2
4 umm...no it is not strange (multi-tasking is always an option)
5 yup...if you feel like it
6 yes
7 no
Oh I liked this little excercise.
CJ,
A golden rule..in any relationship is
1. if you think that someone is avoiding you,get avoided yourself!(if you understand what i am saying)
2.Let the other person come to you himself/herself, dont sell or force youself to him/her
3. Chillax...life is within you and never outside!
i am always confused!
Well, at least glad that it looks like you are getting back into a relationship :-)
thanks all :) BIG HUG for actually answering!
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